5 Things We Can Learn From: Bethenny Frankel

I’ve been a fan of Bethenny Frankel’s since the beginning of Real Housewives of New York City. She was easily my favorite Housewife because unlike the others, she hit that sweet spot of self-awareness for a reality star: just enough where she could have a sense of humor about herself and the show, but not enough where she was above acting like a lunatic at a Creaky Joints charity event.

I think Bethenny lost me sometime during Bethenny Ever After when she started crying in her closet next to Cookie and Ziplock bags of lingerie. Now that she’s getting a divorce from Jason Hoppy, I can only imagine what kind of mess her show would be if she did another season. Not that I wouldn’t have a DVR season pass for Bethenny Getting Her Groove Back With the Help of Hoda Kotb. I would enjoy it for what it would be: an hour long Skinnygirl QVC show with interspersing segments of Bethenny slirping oysters talking about how great casual sex is after 40, while Hoda giggles in embarrassed approval.

"Have you met my friend, Bethenny? She tells it like it is!!!"

“Have you met my friend, Bethenny? She tells it like it is!!!”

Yet, despite the wreck she is, I still think there’s a lot we can learn from Bethenny:

1. You won’t meet the person you’ll spend the rest of your life with at a club, which is how Bethenny and Jason met. If you do meet a hot, single, 40 year-old man while strutting past his bottle service table, it doesn’t mean your vision board is finally working. You’ve just found A 40 YEAR-OLD MAN STILL GETTING BOTTLE SERVICE.

1356295864_bethenny-frankel-main2. If you meet a 40 year-old man at a club and his first words to you are, “are you going to get that stick out of your ass” don’t marry that man! He’s probably going to have issues with non-traditional gender roles!!! I would also argue that if you met a man while you were both volunteering at a children’s hospital, and “are you going to get that stick out of your ass” was the first thing he said to you, it still wouldn’t be a great idea to marry him. He sounds very rude.

3. Crying in a bathroom during your birthday party because you “don’t want all the attention” while you’re miked up for your reality show makes you appear insane. 

bethenny-ever-after-finale-video-bryn4. If you insist on doing the above, do not write a self-help book about overcoming your screwed up childhood. If you’re 40 and still crying in bathrooms at your birthday party, maybe it’s time to let go of the idea that you’re ever going to “overcome” your childhood. Just be proud that you never went through a meth phase in your 20’s.

5. Karma is real, and she will cut you. Look, I love a nice watered down margarita with half the calories and alcohol, and I thank Bethenny for that. However, you can’t be telling ladies they should fill up on salad before Christmas dinner and think you’re going to get away with it. On her show, Bethenny self-righteously scooped out the meat of a few too many bagels for her not to be stricken with a divorce that she would have to eat her way through like a normal woman.

Instagram Caption: "This is my life right now"

Instagram Caption: “This is my life right now”

Bethenny, you did this to yourself. Don’t you tell me you only had a bite of each and threw out the rest. Just let it go.

12 thoughts on “5 Things We Can Learn From: Bethenny Frankel

  1. hahah! Vision map! This is hysterical! I’m addicted to not one, but all of the Housewives shows. …sick, I’m very sick. I think you hit the nail on the head with Bethenny. She is nothing if not a ball of confusion, one big, I mean skinny contradiction of herself. The birthday party episode should have had red flags all over it for Jason Hoppy. He should have asked himself, “If she can’t enjoy this party how on earth will she enjoy marriage?” I’m just sayin’. I think the writing was all over that wall.
    Hey thanks for following my silly little blog. It’s a work in progress, and by that I mean, I’ve done nothing to improve it since I started it. At best, it’s an eclectic mess. Enjoy!! I will gladly follow yours since you actually look like you know what you’re doing.

    • Oh, I, too, am addicted to all the Housewives shows. No shame… this is a safe space where there are no “guilty” pleasure TV shows.

      And no problem! Trust me, this is a work in progress too. I just write about what I know, which is mostly just reality shows and weird guys that I date.

      Thanks for stopping by!

    • hahaha I have a friend that will probably end up w a guy that she met at a club- but they met in their 20’s… I stand by it being a bad idea to look for your later-in-life husband at a bottle service table, though! I mean, why is he 40, employed, attractive, and never married? And why is he clubbing? Unless he’s at a bachelor party I imagine it’s because he’s looking for some 22 year old to take home…

      But you can find love in the club! You can find love in a hopeless place! Just ask Rihanna!!

  2. So true! I feel like Bethenny and I both have the whole “straight-forward-but-still-nice” thing going for us, but some of her life choices are awful. Bringing up your f-ed up childhood and relationships isn’t going to make it go away!

    • exactly! the worst was when she told Jason that she doesn’t like that he always makes her out to be the crazy one….. wellllll crying in the bathroom at your birthday party and going on about how terrible your childhood was kind of sealed your fate as the crazy one. OWN IT, BETHENNY!

  3. Another Housewives addict here. I liked Jason. I’m behind on my gossip, so I don’t know if there was a scandal or not, but I’m on team Jason. She talks too much, waaaay too much. And coming from me, that’s saying something, haha.

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